July 30, 2014

Why I'm All About That Bass

I've been holding back saying this since the criticism began because I know it comes across as bitchy... and that's honestly not my intention. But I'm honestly SO tired of reading articles about how this song is so offensive. 

For those who haven't listened to these "offensive" lyrics, the ones in question are:

I'm bringing booty back
Go ahead and tell them skinny bitches Hey
No, I'm just playing
I know you think you're fat
But every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top

Some people are way too hung up on the phrase "skinny bitches" and haven't stopped whining about it since. Not only do I think these people are missing the entire point of the song, but 


I'm sorry, but I just don't feel bad for any "skinny bitches" that take offense to that line. Meghan Trainor addresses this herself in the lines that follow by saying you only think you're fat when, in fact, you're perfect from the bottom to the top.

I can't even count the number of comments I've read in the past week about how the word skinny is just as offensive as the word fat. Interestingly, I don't hear anyone crying out in disgust over Skinny Lattes at Starbucks, Skinny Jeans, Skinny Girl Margaritas, or any of the other items marketed as skinny to attract a following. 

I'm not even going to address the "bitches" part of that phrase because anyone who takes offense to it in this song probably shouldn't be listening to any pop music at all since it's in pretty much everything. Moving on...

We curvies have ONE SONG in all the history of music where someone is saying it's okay to have curves and that boys will still like you if you're not a Barbie. And while understand the argument that a boy's approval shouldn't be the basis of one's self-image, every curvy girl can tell you that they live in a world that tells them they aren't deserving of love or sex because of their curves. Unless, of course, you're curvy like BeyoncĂ©, which, let's face it, still isn't very curvy. 

The point is, I NEEDED a song like this when I was a teenager (and still today), when EVERY message I received from the world told me I was less-than because of my body. And I am thrilled a song like this has gained the popularity it has because somewhere out there is a girl who needs to hear this message!

Yeah my mama, she told me don't worry about your size
She says boys like a little more booty to hold a night
No, I won't be no stick figure, silicone Barbie doll
So if that's what you're into, then go ahead and move along

To all the thin women who are offended by this song, I want to say IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU. It's the same argument I hear for a straight pride parade, white history month, and white entertainment television. I'm here to tell the world that it needs to stop. Instead, I ask you to recognize that you are a member of a privileged group who maybe just can't understand the need for music like this in mainstream media.

Because we can't turn on the television and see beautiful women like us on every channel. And when they do appear, they're likely in a comedic role rather than a love interest like their thinner counterparts.

We aren't adequately represented in mainstream fashion, despite the fact that we make up more than half of the population. In fact, even many of the stores that do offer us clothing options force us to shop online because GOD FORBID we shop in the same store as our skinny sisters. 

And because no one photoshops an image to make the subject look like us. In fact, they go to epic lengths to create the opposite. Anyone else remember the ridiculously photoshopped thigh gaps in Target's ads earlier this year? Here's a whole list of extremely photoshopped images that prove this point. 

Before I end, I do want to acknowledge that body shaming can happen to people of all sizes. I'm not oblivious to that. I don't support ever pointing out a person for the purpose of criticizing his or her body. I'm also not saying that thin women don't have body image issues. Of course they do. 

But that's not what this is about. 

What I am saying is that this song is about body acceptance. It's about celebrating and validating the beauty and worth of girls who are subjected daily to messages that speak the opposite. It's about giving girls a reason to love their curves, and I'm proud to call it my summer anthem!

July 29, 2014

Remaining Optimistic

I received an email yesterday informing me that I didn't get the job I interviewed for twice last week. 

He offered no explanation or suggestions for what I might to do differently in the future. It was just a statement that they were going with another candidate.

At the end of the day, I guess I just wasn't the best fit. And I have no choice but to accept that. I'm holding on to my statement that I wouldn't change anything about the way I represented myself. I went though the interview questions in my head several times, and although I could change my answers, I'm not convinced anything I'd change would make me a better candidate. 

I'm not going to lie, I was really bummed about this. And it's been pretty humbling because I've always been told I interview well. So, this has shaken my confidence a bit. 

And then I remembered that I had told you guys about the interview, so I owed you an update as well. I didn't have it in me yesterday. Forgive me.

I feel much better today after a couple good cries and lots of words of encouragement from family and friends. This is pretty typical for me because my initial reaction to everything is always emotional, but I always get to the rational part soon after.

I'm not giving up. I never stopped applying. I have to believe that there's something else out there. I just need to find it.

Preferably before August 20th so I don't have to go back to my TA job. That would be great!

Onward and upward...

July 24, 2014

The Interview

I just walked in from my interview, and I wanted to jump on here to give you all the details.

I don't want to brag, but I feel very confident about my interview skills. In my first teaching interview, I was told that I make it seem like we're two friends chatting about coffee, which, I guess, is a good thing. I think I'm pretty good about being professional yet laid back. I always make the interviewers laugh, and today was no different. 

My favorite Q&A of the day was when they wanted an example of a challenge I overcame in teaching. Immediately, all my charter school stories came flooding to my mind, but I settled on one. I referenced the movie Dangerous Minds (although none of us could think of the title for several minutes). I tried to find a gif of the moment, but this is the only one I could find....

What I referenced, though, was the part in the movie when Ms. Johnson is told that if she wants to reach the class, she has to get Emilio on board. I had that kid, and I knew he was the key to my success in that classroom. I had to find a way to reach him, and I was able to do so through his goal to be a famous rapper (he has a full album on YouTube). I had to convince him that ELA would help him become a better rapper through enhanced vocabulary, the use of literary devices, and by studying poetry. And you know what? It worked! When he saw the value in our lessons, he was engaged. And when he was engaged, the rest of the class was free to learn without distraction.

Most of today's questions focused on content, as I previously answered questions about my teaching style in the phone interview. I was able to provide relevant examples to support each of my answers, which I hope proves I'm a great candidate for this job. 

Ultimately, I wouldn't change any of my answers today, so I hope I said what they were wanting to hear. It gives me peace of mind to know that I represented myself well, and I can rest easy knowing that if I'm not selected, it will be because I'm truly not the best fit, not because I didn't say the right thing. 

And above all, I'm grateful that I had the opportunity to interview. I can't tell you how many years have gone by when I didn't even get a call. It gives me confidence that my resume and application are on the right track!

The principal said he hopes to get back to me by Tuesday, assuming he can reach all the references by then.


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